Pet Peeve

I totally get it, when you're in a relationship everything is exciting and there are so many things that you just cannot wait to do and experience with each other. I feel this too and maybe social media does play a huge part in this and makes it even more so.  We constantly see couples online and what they're doing and it just seems so idyllic to us because we have yet to do all of those things. However, one thing that I wish people would put so much more thought into, is getting a pet. It seems to be such a common thing lately, people that haven't even known each other for six months and have only been living together for just four weeks are actually buying pets together and I just really fear for what will happen to these poor animals if it does all ends in tears. It's so difficult to have a clean break up when animals are involved, even I've had experience with this...

After four years of being with my now ex boyfriend and living with him for three, we decided it was time to get a dog. For me, I thought I was with the person I'd be with forever and we would never need to think about what we'll do if we broke up. I guess you never really do think in this negative way when you're in a happy relationship, but when you're bringing an innocent animal into the equation, these things need to be considered and discussed. As cliche as it sounds, life changes so quickly. In a blink of an eye, everything is different and relationships end.

We broke up when Buzz was just three months old and I remember my first thought being "What about Buzz?" but I was just met with responses such as "Well, keep him or get rid of him." and I think this is the thing for a lot of people, as soon as the relationship ends, the first thought is to drop all commitments, all you want is to be free.  Personally, I'm not the type of person to drop anyone or dump animals, it's just not me, so I kept Buzz.



But what a lot of people don't take the time to think about in these situations is how much this affects the animal. For the longest time, Buzz had a huge problem dealing with the change and confusion of his primary owner just leaving one day and never coming back and because of this he started to behave quite aggressively. I tried to keep this to myself unless someone saw it first hand because honestly I found it quite embarrassing. Anytime someone did see what he was like, they would make comments like "That's such strange behaviour for a Golden Retriever" and that made me feel so much worse, like I had failed him because I couldn't make that relationship work or I wasn't good enough.

Time went on and his behaviour began to slowly improve (even more so after he was castrated) and now he behaves so lovely and is the kindest, soppiest dog ever. My ex boyfriend came over a few months back to see Buzz and Buzz struggled to even remember who he was! It's weird what time can do to us all. I think the message I wanted to portray from this blog post is that the animal should always be your first thought. If you're not completely settled in your relationship or may not know what your living or job circumstances could be in the next twelve months, you really should consider putting off getting the animal for now. Always put their needs before your desires.

S
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Room Tour // 2017



Etsy Harry Potter Print

Grey and Blush Pink Bedroom






Gold Wire Grid Urban Outfitters



Copper Wire Bin, Blush Pink Throw

I feel like you can really tell a lot about someone's personality by the way their room looks. And recently, I realised how much I had out grown my little pink, floral room, to the point where I didn't even enjoy spending time in there anymore. So it was definitely time to have a little room makeover and as it's pretty much complete now, apart from a few little things that I may add in the near future, I thought I'd do a little room tour. The last one that I did in 2014 was pretty popular and also, when I'm looking for room inspo, I read so many of these posts and they're a huge help. I'll be sure to link most items, but if there is anything that I do miss and you would like to know where I purchased it from, feel free to either leave me a comment or tweet me!

IKEA - Malm Drawers // £39 (link) New Look - Rose Gold Plant Pot // £4 (link) H&M - Vanilla Candle // £12.99 (similar)  eBay - White Photo Frame // £8.45 (link) Etsy - HP Print // £10.99 (link) eBay - HP Time Turner // £4.45 (link) Wayfair - Bed Frame // £220 (link) Asda - Bed Cover // £12 (link) Dunelm - Grey Fluffy Cushions // £12 (link) Matalan - Pink Fluffy Cushions // £8 (link) eBay - Monochrome Cushion Covers // £8.99 (link) Ohh Deer - Panda Cushion // £30 (link) JD Williams - Grey Throwover // £20 (link) JD Williams - Blush Accent Throw // £30 (link) Amazon - Curtain Fairy Lights // £16 (link) Amazon - Fairy Light Hooks // £8 (link) Dunelm - Three Hanging Wicker Hearts // £3 (link) Next - Brass Letters // £6 (link) New Look - Gold Plant Pot // £7.99 (link) Dunelm - Moroccan Candle Holder // £5 (link) The Range - Ivory Mirror // £22 (similar) IKEA - Alex/Linnmon Desk // £70 (link) JD Williams - Glass Terrarium // £15 (link) The Range - Copper Lamp // £15 (link) Urban Outfitters - Wire Grid // £40 (link) Etsy - Notting Hill Print // £3.50 (link) Etsy - Disney Print // £1.50 (link) B&M - Copper Waste Paper Bin // £4.99 (link

I'm really loving my room and strangely enough, I find it so much easier to keep it more tidy now. One of my favourite parts of my room is definitely the wire grid from Urban Outfitters. I ended up getting it when I was stuck choosing between prints, this way it'll be a lot easier to change up the prints when I get bored.

Hope you enjoyed this post! 
S x

YouTubers in the Media

I remember when I first majorly started to love YouTube. The people I watched, made videos of their passions because they really enjoyed it, not because it would make them a lot of money or help them become a celebrity. Because of this, it made it feel like they were more like online friends, than someone completely above you. I also remember how happy/excited/proud I felt, when my favourite YouTubers at the time, first made it into the mainstream media outlets, because it just wasn't a thing that really happened back then, but fast forward 7 years and it's now a thing of the norm, but maybe not always as positive as it initially was.
The Guardian recently made the ridiculous claim that Zoe Sugg aka Zoella is to blame for the decline in teenage literacy. Even though, I don't find Zoe's books to be my cup of tea personally, to try and use her as a scapegoat and blame her for the decline in teenage literacy for the whole of the UK, is just absurd. In my opinion, I don't think schools actually do enough to encourage and inspire young adults to read. I know my school never did and it wasn't until I left school, that I majorly started to read lots of books because I actually enjoyed it, not because I had to. This is not the first time that mainstream media have made ridiculous, negative claims about YouTubers, and it most definitely won't be the last. However, this article provoked a huge online reaction from viewers and online creators, and also led to Dodie making a video in response to the constant ridicule, that YouTubers receive from the media. At the end of the video, she suggested that people should make video responses with their thoughts and feelings on the subject and as YouTube isn't my forte, I thought I'd write a post instead.


I really enjoyed Dodie's video and I feel like she made some excellent points. YouTube videos have changed people's lives for the better. In the video, she talks about how people that suffer from issues such as acne have learnt to love and accept themselves because of YouTubers such as Melanie Murphy and Zoella, how people are now experimenting with stop motion and lighting techniques after watching the likes of Kick The Pj and lastly, not forgetting the likes of Shane Dawson, Ingrid Nelson and Kingsley that help LGBTQ+ individuals know that they are not alone and help them to understand that there is a world out there, that will accept them for who they are.

All these examples really made me appreciate YouTube for what it does and how it helps and impacts people's lives. Then, I thought about which videos have helped me. All of those videos I watched to help me realise what an abusive relationship is, realising what consent is and knowing that I CAN say no. I also remember when I first starting struggling severely with anxiety and I watched a video Zoella had made regarding her experience and after, I just sobbed and sobbed, because for the first time, I didn't feel so alone. Thank god a platform like this exists!

However, as Dodie is a YouTuber herself, I feel like her thoughts and views are slightly somewhat biased. Yes, I totally agree that countless media outlets constantly take something completely positive and turn it into something very sad and negative, but I think we also need to remember that mainstream media have ALWAYS done this. Think of any celebrity, big or small. At some point, I bet there has been an untruthful, negative article written about them. Every week, gossip magazines are printed. How many of those articles are completely factual? Very little, I'd say. But I think, when something negative is printed about a YouTuber, everyone takes it very personally, like it's an attack on all YouTubers, but this is not the case. I think there comes a point, when the line between YouTuber and celebrity becomes incredibly blurred and with that fame, comes good attention and bad. It's just the reality of it. For a long time, the mainstream media were painted to be very dim when it came to YouTubers and their outreach, but I don't think this is the case anymore. They understand that these creators have a lot of viewers and a lot of fans, so they know using their name will improve their readership, which it always does.

Ultimately, I think it's very easy for everyone that supports YouTubers, whether you are a viewer or an online creator yourself, to get angry at negative attention like this, but this is exactly why they write things like this and why they will continue to write things like this in the future, for those clicks. 

Top Five of the Week: YouTube

Lately I seem to be watching YouTube less and less, but here are five videos that I've loved from the past week! (I'd like this to maybe be a weekly thing, but my subscription box is usually pretty bleak, so we shall see)




001: Alfie Deyes and Emma Blackery talk YouTube Money, Books & More.
As a non YouTuber myself, I find videos like this incredibly interesting. I feel that those that haven't experienced life as a YouTuber can be very quick to judge at times, myself included, so I'm all about videos that set the record straight. This is a must watch, even if you're not a fan of the likes of Emma or Alfie. This video also inspired me to write one of my latest blog posts - Let's Talk About YouTube (&Blogging).




002: Cayleigh Maloye covers La La Land's 'Audition Song' 
I really like La La Land, I'm just not sure if I love it and get the hype everyone gives it. However, the soundtrack is beautiful, and after seeing the film, I became obsessed and had it on repeat for w e e k s. I feel like most days there is another La La Land cover in my subscription box, but I think because I have such a high expectation of how the songs should sound, I don't really love many of them, but this one is incredible and I can't stop listening to it!



003: Mark Ferris talks about becoming comfortable in his own skin
As someone who is pretty self conscious, I really loved this video and the important message it sends out; that everyone should be able to wear whatever they feel comfortable in, regardless of what other people think. He also touched on the comments he sometimes receives, regarding men using products and clothes that are deemed for woman, and how to deal with comments from close-minded individuals. I really enjoy videos like this because I'm a stickler for listening to negative comments. I wish I could have watched videos like this when I was a teenager, I feel like my mindset would be completely different.



004: The Michalaks announce their pregnancy 
The Michalaks have to be one of my favourite YouTubers, and one of the only vlogging channels I watch; the way that the vlogs are shot and edited is just incredible. Back in the summer, Hannah wrote the most heartbreakingly beautiful blog post about her miscarriage, so watching their announcement video of their new pregnancy made me so emotional. Hannah has also uploaded another video where she talks more about her pregnancy so far and wrote a blog post where she talks about pregnancy after a loss. It's so lovely to see her happy after a really tough time!




005: Dodie Clark responds to YouTube hate in the media. 
I feel like most days now, I see more and more main stream media outlets bashing and outing YouTubers. This is a very interesting and thought provoking video and I agree with most of the points made. I really love videos like this, that get people talking and sharing their opinions! At the end of the video, Dodie tells her audience to make video responses, but as YouTube is not my thing, I think I may write a post in response to it soon.

Which videos have you loved watching the past week?

S
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What The Ribbons And Pins Meant At The Oscars

As last night was the 89th Academy Awards ceremony, I stayed up until nearly 6am to watch them play out live. And yes, I'm definitely paying for it today, with the extremely bloodshot eyes and intense tiredness. One of the biggest questions I had last night (apart from what the hell went to wrong during the Best Picture award?!?!) was what do all of these ribbons and pins that the attendees were wearing mean? 

Emma Stone Oscars 2017 Planned Parenthood

001: Emma Stone (La La Land) and Dakota Johnson (Fifty Shades) show their support for Planned Parenthood by wearing a gold pin, as the organisation defend its federal funding.



002: Screenwriter Tarell Alvin McCraney (Moonlight) wore a red ribbon in support of the fight against AIDS. Casey Affleck (Manchester by the Sea) also showed his support by wearing a smaller, bejeweled version.



003: Jackie Chan brought two toy pandas as his dates because he is "the panda ambassador" and one of his pandas wore a UNICEF pin.



004: Costume designer Colleen Attwood (Fantastic Beasts & Where to Find Them) wore GLAAD's (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) blue ampersand. The symbol is meant to "stand with all communities subject to discrimination – including women, Muslims, immigrants, and LGBTQ people."



005: The blue ACLU ribbon, which was dubbed as being the hottest accessory at this years Academy Awards, was worn by various attendees last night: Lin Manuel Miranda, Ruth Negga and Emma Stone, just to name a few. It was a way that everyone could show their support in the wake of Trump's controversial travel ban. "For almost 100 years, the ACLU has worked to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties guaranteed by the Constitution and laws of the United States."


Oscar 2017 Predictions

Once upon a time, I used to be one of those people, that just rarely watched films. I struggle with concentration due to my illness, so I found them just impossible to watch; but since my boyfriend is a film student, I've slowly become addicted and now, I watch more films than he does! As the 89th Academy Awards ceremony is tomorrow night, I thought Conor and I would make our predictions for the event!


001. Best Picture:
S: Who should win? Moonlight
Who will win? La La Land

C: Who should win? La La Land
Who will win? Manchester by the Sea

002. Best Actor:
S: Who should win? Casey Affleck (Manchester by the Sea)
Who will win? Casey Affleck (Manchester by the Sea)

C: Who should win? Casey Affleck (Manchester by the Sea)
Who will win? Casey Affleck (Manchester by the Sea) OR Denzel Washington (Fences)



003. Best Actress:
S: Who should win? Natalie Portman (Jackie)
Who will win? Emma Stone (La La Land)

C: Who should win? Emma Stone (La La Land)
Who will win? Emma Stone (La La Land) 


004. Best Supporting Actor:
S: Who should win? Mahershala Ali (Moonlight)
Who will win? Mahershala Ali (Moonlight) OR Dev Patel (Lion)

C: Who should win? Dev Patel (Lion)
Who will win? Dev Patel (Lion)



005. Best Supporting Actress:
S: Who should win? Viola Davis (Fences)
Who will win? Viola Davis (Fences)

C: Who should win? Nicole Kidman (Lion)
Who will win? Nicole Kidman (Lion) OR Viola Davis (Fences)



006. Animated Feature:
S: Who should win? Kubo and the Two Strings
Who will win? Kubo and the Two Strings


C: Who should win? Kubo and the Two Strings
Who will win? Kubo and the Two Strings



007. Cinematography:

S: Who should win? La La Land (Linus Sandgren)
Who will win? La La Land (Linus Sandgren)


C: Who should win? La La Land (Linus Sandgren)
Who will win? 
La La Land (Linus Sandgren)

008. Costume Design:
S: Who should win? Jackie (Madeline Fontaine)
Who will win? Jackie (Madeline Fontaine)

C: Who should win? La La Land (Mary Zophres)
Who will win? La La Land (
Mary Zophres)



009. Director:
S: Who should win? La La Land (Damien Chazelle)
 
Who will win? La La Land (Damien Chazelle)

C: Who should win? La La Land (
Damien Chazelle)
Who will win? La La Land (Damien Chazelle)

010: 
Documentary (Feature):

S: Who should win? Life, Animated
Who will win? O.J.: Made in America OR 13th

C: Who should win? Life, Animated
Who will win? 13th 


011. Documentary (Short Subject):
S: Who should win? Extremis
Who will win? Joe's Violin

C: Who should win? Extremis
Who will win? Extremis OR Joe's Violin


012. Film Editing:

S: Who should win? La La Land (Tom Cross)
Will will win? La La Land (Tom Cross)

C: Who should win? La La Land (Tom Cross)
Who will win? La La Land (Tom Cross) 

013. Best Foreign Language Film:
S: Who should win? The Salesman
Who will win? The Salesman

C: Who should win? Land of Mine
Who will win? Toni Erdman

014. Makeup and Hairstyling:
S: Who should win? Star Trek Beyond
Who will win? Star Trek Beyond

C: Who should win? Suicide Squad (ew)
Who will win? Suicide Squad (definite ew)



015. Music (Original Score):
S: Who should win? Jackie (Mica Levi)Who will win? La La Land (Justin Hurwitz)

C: Who should win? Jackie (Mica Levi)
Who will win? Jackie (Mica Levi) OR La La Land (Justin Hurwitz) 

016. Music (Original Song):
S: Who should win? How Far I'll Go (Moana)
Who will win? City of Stars (La La Land)

C: Who should win? How Far I'll Go (Moana)
Who will win? City of Stars (La La Land)

017. Production Design:
S: Who should win? La La Land (David Wasco)
Who will win? La La Land (
David Wasco)

C: Who should win? La La Land (
David Wasco)
Who will win? La La Land (
David Wasco)


018. Animated Short:
S: Who should win? Piper
Who will win? Piper

C: Who should win? Piper
Who will win? Piper

019. Live Action Short:
S: Who should win? Ennemis Intérieurs
Who will win? 
Ennemis Intérieurs

C: Who should win? Silent Nights
Who will win? Silent Nights


020. Sound Editing:
S: Who should win? Hacksaw Ridge
Who will win? La La Land

C: Who should win? La La Land
Who will win? La La Land 

021. Sound Mixing:
S: Who should win? Arrival
Who will win? La La Land

C: Who should win? Arrival
Who will win? Arrival 

022. Visual Effects:
S: Who should win? The Jungle Book
Who will win? The Jungle Book

C: Who should win? Kubo and the Two Strings
Who will win? The Jungle Book


023. Adapted Screenplay:
S: Who should win? Moonlight
Who will win? Moonlight OR Fences OR Lion

C: Who should win? Lion
Who will win? Lion OR Moonlight

024. Original Screenplay: 
S: Who should win? Manchester by the Sea
Who will win? Manchester by the Sea

C: Who should win? Manchester by the Sea
Who will win? Manchester by the Sea

Thank you for reading! What would you like to win? x

Let's Talk About: YouTube (&Blogging)

I think I'm starting to really missing blogging. I feel like 2014 was the year that blogging was such a huge passion of mine and as a result, I managed to post 139 times. Last year, I managed to post 4 times... I've been thinking lately of why this may be and I soon realised, that the reason why I started this blog was to write about my passions and hobbies, which at the time were hair and makeup; mainly because I was also working in a salon at the time. Years passed and I changed a lot as a person, I didn't feel passionate about makeup so much anymore and in terms of blogging, I felt very lost and like there wasn't a place for me anymore. Due to the lack of blogging, I also decided to stop having a domain, because the money would be better spent elsewhere. There are so many blog posts that state all the important ~blogger rules~ and they all say you n e e d a domain, or no one would even bother reading, which made me feel like I shouldn't even bother. But, there have been so many times when my mind has been full to the brim of thoughts, and I always think "I wish I could blog about this" So, here's me ignoring all those "blogger rules" and just starting again, like I did originally, just because I want to write about all the things in my life.

I mentioned in one of the only posts I wrote last year, that I had kind of fallen out of love with YouTube, due to the fact that the bigger YouTubers seemed to be creating very fake, online personas and kind of exploiting their young following, but today, I watched a video that really did make me think of the bigger picture.



I feel like there are many reasons people tend to dislike the bigger names, such as Alfie Deyes and Zoe Sugg. For some, it could be they just don't understand how they have such a huge online following, others don't agree with how much money they make and others just don't like them as people or the content they make. I think it's perfectly fine to not like someone, however, I hate how many unnecessary comments I see about them online, on a daily basis - usually coming from other YouTubers themselves. And one of the biggest topics being, the books that they have brought out. I for one, have never been that much of big fan of YouTube books, but I realised I never really looked at the bigger picture. I always thought because I don't like this, none of the people I know like this, why is this a thing?

I remember when I was little and growing up in an abusive environment, my idols were McFly. And even though, I was incredibly unhappy everyday, they made it all bearable. If Alfie and Zoe are exploiting children by selling merchandise and by bringing out harmless books, you could also say, McFly were exploiting 11 year old me, by selling all those things they did, that I then bought. It's an incredibly sad thing, but I always say it, I feel like McFly were one of the best, if not the best, thing about my childhood. And yes, to a lot of us, The Pointless Book may seem...pointless. But if it brings joy to a child or teenager for just 5/10 minutes, especially if they're having a hard time, why is that such a terrible thing?

YouTube books aside, another common thing is that, because these YouTubers share little snippets of their lives, everyone thinks that they are the expert on who these people are and assume they know everything that there is to know about them. We make up these little characters in our minds of who they are and we don't need any more information. For example: When we see a YouTuber making a lot of money, we sometimes believe them to be greedy and unappreciative, but again, we're only seeing a tiny snippet of their lives. If they donate to charity, they can't add it in to a vlog, or that would be seen as just donating to charity to get praise. Ultimately, I think it's a situation they can't win.

Another important point that was made in the video by Emma Blackery, is that with this online community, we can always go back and watch their old videos, of when they were a completely different person and because of this, we don't always have a clear picture of who they are in the present time and comments such as "You've changed" are very common. People change a lot over the years, but when your life is constantly documented online, people expect you to stay the same for some reason, which is a really odd concept.

Overall, I don't think I'm ever going to be someone that's a huge fan of Alfie's, but that's okay. I don't need to be, but I think it's important to be nice and not to keep spreading so much unnecessary hate all of the time.  (Obviously, this could apply to everyone, but I just used Alfie as an example due to the video)

"What Susie says of Sally, says more about Susie than Sally." 


I never thought I'd write a post defending Alfie, but here we are! Sorry for the long, rambly post on my YouTube thoughts, thank you if you read it all! If you watched the video, what were your thoughts? x
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